Women who KNOWINGLY sleep with married men...and - Married men that cheat

[rishi]

Came across this article. Just sharing here. Lets see the feedbacks we get..
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I was married in 1977 and stayed in a very "loveless" marriage raising my children the best I could. I hold no anger towards my ex, but feel sorry for his inability to love and be loved. However, that is not my story.

I met a man after my divorce that showered me with love and affection. He told me I was beautiful even when I gained 30 pounds. He was very attentive and we had so much in common and the sex was out of this world.

We married in 2000. 2001 was an extremely rough year. I began to go through menopause and did many Linda Blair impressions. My new husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and began to drink. We sought help off and on.

I noticed calls on the cell phone long calls, frequent calls to the same number. Calls to the house and hang up calls. I found out they met one night, but NOTHING happened, she was going through "guy" problems with her boyfriend and he was trying to understand the Linda Blair syndrome. I didn't really believe, but he told me he loved me 100 times a day and told me how lucky he was to have me, my beautiful smile and my beautiful body (now 40 pounds heavier than when we met).

When I found out who it was I confronted each of them and asked if there was anything going on. Nope, nope, nope. OK I believed, after all he paid attention to me and the passion was so intense.

A couple years later up she pops again, but then quickly moves out of the picture, or so I thought.

This past December (2006) we begin to plan our usual quiet New Year's Eve. Romantic, cozy and sexually intense. OH YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

New Year's Eve is upon us and each of us have to work that Saturday December 30th, but we are going to begin our celebration that night and just carry it through until January 1st. He began to drink again in early fall, but that is something I can to terms with as his problem and not something I could control. I DID not contribute to it and I do not drink. So we plan to have nice candle lit dinners, breakfast in bed with our plates as each others belly. Just wild and crazy things.

We arrive home and he is tired, he looks wiped. But he is so happy to see me he is not too out of the norm. He falls asleep on the 30th and then we both don't make midnight on the 31st, but we have a wonderful evening with some fire filled and dynomite charged sex, making love, both of which we really enjoy.

Right after the first of January, he begins to drink more and more. Then he is not working.

I find an odd number on his cell phone (which is a company cell phone, so we get no bills) he is a manager in his business so he is contacting many other businesses each day. No way to really check numbers, you would go nuts. He calls all over. But I did notice calls long in length and early morning or on his way home. I call and the voice on the other end make my heart stop. Yup it is her.

After a bit of calling myself and searching I receive a call on the morning of January 12th. It is her, she explodes and tells me EVERYTHING and I mean no hold barred. I should have hung up but I am numb. I get details that would curl a porn stars hair. But I listen and then I hear and "I was fu**king his brains out six years ago too and since then too. And ask him how many times last week, go ahead ask him, I F**ked his brains out 5 times last week, just like I have for the past 6 years.

OMG - what a S ** L** U** T**

and what a S**L**U**G

Hurt anger deceit I can't tell you.

We are in therapy, I am in a couple great support groups. We each wrote her a letter and told her to stay out of our lives. The letters we very frank, but with the utmost taste. We both told her anymore contact and we would file charges for protection orders.

So far, no contact. Yes he is honest, we discussed many things in detail. I did go to her job and pay her a little visit. I was NOT angry, I was very calm, cool and collected. I was very proud.

But in front of her coworkers I told her to stay away from my husband. To stop sleeping with my husband, and that I thought she was a slimy dirty person and not even fit to be called a woman. I told her that I knew she F**cked her bosses husband as she told my husband she did after their Christmas party. I told her she was lower than pond scum and to stay away from my husband and that maybe she could try finding a single guy not my husband and that I was sure her boss would say the same about her husband.

Well the road is ROUGH, we are still so fighting just giving up, but we feel a strong foundation. She is gone where I don't know, but she was fired from her job in February. I found that out from her work.

[mirugam]

hmmmm.....normal sindrome which happens everywhere and to nearly everyone....

Men and nowadays women too are exposed to high level of temptations which they usually fail to refuse, so they tend to get involved in this kind of relationship.

Is there any ways to avoid our other halves from straying?

[rishi]

too hard

[mirugam]

A) hIRE PRIVATE INVESTIGATER( someone like Bala)
B) Fix spy software in their handphone/laptop...(yeah there is ....)
c) Fix spy in their work place( reward from time to time)
d) Finally try your best to be a good life partner....loving, fulfill each other's need, caring and loving......oh yeah....be sexy all the time, men should go for flat tummy or at least bulging biceps and women should try to look like Tyra Banks all the time ....( yeah....all these are difficult to do but it helps to prevent from your spouse go straying )

[VJeyaa]

have u tried all the above mirg? does it workk?

[mirugam]

yeah.....vj....i go for the (d).....

a, b and c are too complicated for me....so i stick to the basic ones.

[rishi]

[Maya]

how does these woman get involved with married man.??? even if they know that that the man married...yet they still continue the affair.

Does this man actually brainwash them? or give some pavam pavam stories to these women? or Is the other way round?

Take for example.... let say we today we meet a guy... and we know that he is married.....what will happen is ... we will keep a distance with this person at the same time being friendly.

But still how this happens..... atleast once they know that the guy is married.. they should stop....but here NO... they still continue.

[Maya]

i've heard few true happening here in Malaysia. There is this lady who was engaged to a guy whom she was in love for 4 years..... Just b4 her marriage she change her job. At the new company she met a guy who is married with few kids.......they were frends and became closer....

She became pregnant and elope with this guy.. he kept her in his frens places.. and from time to time he will move her from 1 frens hse to another. she gave birth and he was still doing the same thing.... till one day he rented a room in an apartment and put her there.

He enjoys his life and all festivals with his 1st wife and kids. He only comes to see her once or twice a month just to see the baby and give some pocket money. She does not work coz can't afford babysitting cost... with the salary that she can earn.... she goes to his frens house or calling his frens hunting for him like a mad woman when she need to buy milk for her baby....... she fight with the landlord and try her best not to vacant the room when they ask for rent......

Until lately... she found a job and a foreign lady babysitting her baby for cheaper rate ...... ANDDDDDDDDDDD

The guy doesn't come to see them anymore..........!!!!

[Revam]

[mirugam]

this is normal.....the woman is paying for the risk she took by having affair with him...a cheat.

[Maya]

u r rite mirg... but i wonder what would have made her to fall for him and till pregnant even after she knowing he is married?

[mirugam]

WELL...all of us wonder why some nice people would do such a thing and ruin their life and others at the same time. I guess it is because they listen to their heart and follow their strong feeling without stopping to use their brain and think.They use the word "love" as blanket for their act......it might be love but driven by LUST.

[rishi]

dont be surprised maya.

just like some gurls, certain guys will do anthing, can do anything. they r so extremely smart that, although what they did is wrong, u admire their brains.

i mean it. some just make me speechless.

[gowri]

Well nowadays this is become a critical issue too . I have seen too, married women or man having affairs . Dun be surprise that many gals is going after married guys ...

Just wondering if they dun have brain to think about the family before this man or female having affair....how come ah